In my journey to lose weight by focusing mainly on the change text, I found myself at some point to read a lot of books and articles on the subject. Let's just say that I sublimate my greed, shifting the focus from food to Knowledge :-).
No article or book or conference or seminar, or treaty that does not place emphasis on the fact that very often those who are overweight or obese has a very low self-esteem.
I confess that I never paid much attention when I worked on myself. I felt that this was not my problem. Indeed, to be honest, have always been convinced of having too much self-esteem in the sense that I have often thought myself to be presumptuous sometimes.
I started to feel the need to better understand and explore the concept of self-esteem when I was clear, compared with many other women who really low self-esteem is very often the first problem to be addressed for those who want to start up a process of change itself.
And I discovered with surprise and relief that I was wrong. Wow what I sbagliavo.La my self-esteem is definitely not very consistent and very shaky. The relief is because they are convinced that change is possible if you understand where is the error or failure.
The error arose from the fact that I was a confusion of terms and the exchange account of themselves with the concept of self-esteem.
But let's go.
What self-esteem.
often "self-concept" and "self" is used as if they were interchangeable.
actually express two concepts that apparently resemble each other.
The "self-concept" is a list of all those characteristics that we think define us. And therefore my concept of myself is that I am a woman of a certain age, time of normal weight, I love reading, studying, living in the countryside, cooking, animals around, go to exhibitions. I know I'm smart, especially in matters scientific, I know it was a good doctor's work, I know I'm very strong, patient, friendly. I also know that in certain situations, easily loses patience and I can suddenly explode. Overall, I have a concept me very positive.
But "self-concept" is not "self"
L ' "esteem" is not a static list of capabilities, but it is the assessment of these capabilities do with the information we have about ourselves.
William James defined self-esteem as the ratio between the perceived self and ideal self.
Self-esteem is a kind of balance between what we believe and we think we are and what we believe and think we have to be (and then, reach).
Self-esteem is in fact a relationship between success and expectations.
I opened up a world. And I realized why no success, no result has never died down this sense of unease that has accompanied my life.
Why is my Ideal Me is boundless, bottomless, endless, unattainable. It 's a child Ideal legacy of children who have been.
not lose anything because I do not look like what ever I think I should be.
not rational thought, but still intrusive and incasinante. Indeed the more incasinante the more emotionally rooted in an ancient and never feel prepared.
And I understand the criticism that a few days ago made me a person whom I respect very much. You have a great resistance, but you are not very elastic, he said. Watch out for only the elasticity allows you to achieve serenity. Nobody forces you to be eternally strong. As long as you behave as a port to which the other may land and rely, there is only one who sees you as a port in which to escape, but not as someone with whom to confront.
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