Although there are fine biologists to teach us that the only constant in nature is change, I remain fundamentally convinced of one thing: people do not change .
Indeed, we can say that I have the certainty, empirically verified on my skin.
Call it, with a term so pompous as everyday "experience."
Whenever we delude ourselves that a person can become less selfish, more attentive to our needs, or just more polite, every time that we expect those around us to take a step in our direction, that efforts to be on time or other, purely and simply for the love or respect for the trial against us, we are making a colossal mistake.
And, almost certainly, the price to pay, in that case, you a big disappointment, which we can not blame others if not ourselves. Also because, although it is hard to swallow, in some cases, I strongly believe that those who are because of their evil will not remain that to cry himself.
I'm not just talking about romantic relationships, I will not refer only to a couple's relationship, because there, if possible, the situation is even more evident, but at least there is the justification of love that clouds the mind and the view.
No no, I'm talking about relationships in general, all the times that we are to relate with people. For business, friendship, neighborly relations, for easy understanding.
Normally, I just need five minutes to get a first impression against a person. Do not know for sure, that's not enough for that year.
But certainly feel a sensation. There is always a little voice inside me says: ok, you can trust, or: careful, watch your back. And that, usually, over time, turns out to be correct.
That way, it's all very simple and rational: a person is. If you're lucky is that, if not, is that anyway. Then you can decide that you do not is fine, but do not expect to change it, or expect it to change. At that point, then, we have to change our expectations, or change a person.
But then there are times when that little voice just does not feel like listening to it, because after all, not one can always live with the knife between his teeth, right?
So I try to trust, to be less defensive, more benevolent and more serene.
But, on time, to quote the legendary La Cetto any, who knows many truths to bestow these days, I have her 'ntu Culu. The only thing I've learned, stay is less evil.
Then, and this is the bitter conclusion of today, every time we think, we hope, we deceive ourselves and we expect that a person changes, we are in fact only deceiving ourselves.
And it's worth it.
PS. The photos do not c'azzecca anything, but in any case which has the one of his cause ...
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